Finding Space, Time, Energy, and Money in Motherhood
Do you ever feel like you're just completely overwhelmed by how much you have to do in every single day of your life as a mom? The list does not seem to end. We don't even know how to give ourselves time anymore. Space, time, energy, and money (S.T.E.M.) are the precious commodities that we need more of. Discover how you can free up space, time, energy, and money so you can have a more purposeful life. After all, every mom deserves to wake up every day and feel excited about getting their affairs and their home in order.
Space, Time, Energy, And Money
How To Get More S.T.E.M. In Your Life
I am super excited to fill you in on something exciting that is happening. I'm going to get to that, but I wanted to come on first of all and talk to you mom to mom. Do you ever feel like you're just completely overwhelmed by how much you have to do in every single day of your life as a mom? The list does not seem to end. The to-do list is something that is always going to be there, and some days it is a mile long, and you feel like you're never going to get to the end of it. On other days it can be a lot shorter. One thing that I've tried to tell myself over the years is to let go of the anxiety that the to-do list can cause. It is always going to be there, and we need to learn to be grateful for it. As long as we're breathing and we have a life here on this Earth, we're going to have a to-do list. That's part of life. There's no reason to get upset about it, but it does get overwhelming at times.
I've been doing this professional organizing gig for several years, and I have had the privilege to be welcomed into homes of hundreds of moms, which is my favorite type of client. Number one, I can totally relate to her. Number two, I think that moms have the biggest jobs in the entire world and they have the longest to-do lists. It makes me feel excited to be able to go into a mom's home and share tips and tricks on how she can get her list done but also enjoy life as she's doing it. That is one of the main reasons why I love my job. The thing about being a professional organizer is you get to know clients on a deep level and sometimes they actually become friends. I've had lots of conversations with moms and we've even shared lots of tears because they feel overwhelmed. That's the number one thing I hear all the time is, “Jennifer, I feel so overwhelmed. I don't even know where to begin.”
That usually tugs at my heartstrings because I feel sad when a mom feels that way. We have so many blessings as moms. We've been blessed with children. We've been blessed sometimes with marriages, sometimes with homes that we dreamed of. Sometimes we've been blessed with the life that we imagined ever since we were a little girl. We were playing with our dolls, plastic kitchen set and imagining the day that we had this home, these kids and this husband to take care of. Here we are smack dab in the middle of it. Nobody told us how it was going to be. They didn't give you a book the day you had your first child and said, “File this manual when you get home.” I wish that were the case but what do we have? We have each other.
Only another mother knows this life as we do. Only another mother knows those days when you feel like you don't have one more ounce of energy to give. What you would give to run away and have a few minutes to yourself. What you would give just to remember who you were before these kids took over your life. When was the last time you stopped and thought about who you were before all of this happened to you, who you were before you became a mom? It's hard, sometimes we end up going through the motions day-after-day, getting the laundry done and making sure we load the dishwasher, get the kids to practice on time, pick them up for school, make their lunch, get them to dance, make sure we run to Target and get enough cleaning products to survive. Make sure we have laundry detergent in the cupboard.
"Do one baby step at a time and eventually you are going to get to the end goal."
We have a list a mile long but the thing about it is that you're not alone. Every mother feels that way at times. Every mother that I've ever worked with I feel is a reflection of who I am. Deep down, we all want the same things. We want our kids to be happy. We want our spouse to be happy. We want to have a clean, organized home. We want to be successful in our job. We want to be in shape, we want to look cute and we want to have nice clothes. A lot of us want the same exact thing and that's why I tell my clients all the time, “What is the vision for your life?” We stop and we sit there for about fifteen or twenty minutes. We talk about what the vision for their life is and to me, a vision is a painted picture.
My client can sit there and paint this picture for me of what they want their life to look like. They can tell me what kind of mom they want to be. They can tell me what they want their home to look like, how they want their children to feel in their home, what they want to do with their time that they have here on Earth. That gives me a real clear indication of what we're striving for. If we don't take those minutes to sit or those times in our lives to sit down and think about these things, we end up getting on that hamster wheel. We run around and around every single day, and we don't even know how to get off anymore. We don't even know how to give ourselves time anymore. We don't even know how to take a break and sit down and read a book for fifteen minutes, journal or spend time in prayer.
It's so important to do that, to take that time because otherwise, we forget to check in with ourselves and say, “Is this the life I ever wanted? Is this the way I want my life to look? Is this the way I want my home to look? Are these the type of kids I want to raise? Is this the friend I want to be to my girlfriends?” It's important to check in. I'm a huge advocate of doing that. Over the years being able to work one-on-one with clients has been a complete godsend and I've seen these women transform their lives. They've thought they were hiring me to get a Pinterest perfect closet, but it's a lifestyle that they learned about. I give them skills. I teach them how to make the most out of their life, how to get organized, how to give every single thing they own a space in their house and how to decide what to get rid of and what to keep. How to make that decision, do you love something? Do you use it or should you get rid of it? Should you donate it? Should you sell it?
S.T.E.M.
I love teaching women those skills. I don't like doing it because I want them to have the perfect home. I like doing it because it frees up STEM. That's what I call Space, Time, Energy, and Money. I love teaching moms how to figure out a way to free up S.T.E.M. in their home and their life because it's that Space, Time, Energy, and Money that they need more of. You know that you have those days where you're, “If I only had one more hour. If I only had an extra $100. If I only had a bigger house. If I only had the energy to get through the day without feeling completely exhausted by 2:00.” Those are the precious commodities that we need more of, Space, Time, Energy, and Money. That's why I call it STEM.
Purposeful Life: Every single piece of clutter in your life is taking up some space, time, energy, and money.
Clear Out The Clutter
I love doing what I do because I want to remove clutter that's taking up that precious STEM to show the mom I'm working with the life she could have. We are all capable of having a more purposeful life. A life that we wake up every day and we feel excited about, but we can't do it until we clear the clutter. That I know for sure, we cannot do it. Anybody you've ever heard that reached some level of success, did basic principles and one of them is they made sure that they got their affairs in order, they got their home in order. They got their office in order; they cleared out the clutter because every single piece of clutter in your life is taking up some STEM, whether it be too many papers that you're wasting time on, whether it be relationship clutter or mental clutter. Mental clutter that keeps your brain cluttered up all day. You can't seem to get onto the next task because you're stuck in your mind.
There are so many different types of clutter. Clutter can be stuff, clutter can be big. It's from relationships. Clutter can be debt, clutter can be excess weight or clutter can be guilt. Clutter can be fear and clutter can be the negative voice in your head saying, “What are you doing with your life? You could do more.” It can be so many things but the one thing that clutter always is something that is keeping you from your highest potential. Whether it be the best potential for your home, the best potential for your time, the best potential for your life, that is clutter. My job is to get you to recognize what the clutter is because sometimes it has been around in our life for so long, we don't even recognize it. We don't even realize how much it's tripping us up. We don't realize how much time we're wasting on it. We don't realize how much space in our home is being wasted.
Take That First Step
When we recognize clutter that it gives us the motivation to start tackling it, to start going through it. When you do that, when you actually remove clutter, you free up space, time, energy and money. It allows new opportunities and new things to come into your life. As an example, maybe you end up freeing up time that you spend cleaning your home and you have an hour extra a week to sit down and plan out that business you've been dreaming about building. You have that extra hour a week to sit and spend time with God, to pray, journal and dream. Maybe you have an extra hour a week to take a big project like writing a book, putting one foot in front of the other, starting and saying, “I've always dreamed about writing a book and I'm going to take that first step. I'm going to write up a table of contents this week and next week I'm going to spend an hour outlining each chapter. After that, I'm going to start working on chapter one.”
It doesn't matter how long it takes us because we're going to get it done. We're going to do it one baby step at a time and eventually, you are going to get to the end goal. Every single time you choose to take that time to put it towards something that is calling you to do, something that is down deep in your soul that you feel, “I feel it down in there.” Maybe you don't even share it with your best girlfriends. Maybe you haven't shared it with your husband but down in your soul, that thing that is calling you, that thing that is knocking on the door saying, “This is what I want you to take a step forward doing. This is what you've been called to do.” That message, that feeling is worth freeing up that space, time, energy and money.
"If we are living our best life, then we are being the best mom we can be."
I've seen so many women transform their lives by following through with this process and it's a process. It's a step-by-step process to do this. It's a lifestyle change. It’s a commitment. I can tell you, you will be so excited. You will feel so much more peace and you'll feel more alive. You'll feel like, “I'm not just here to change diapers, get groceries and do laundry. I'm a woman and I have a calling on my life.” When you recognize that there's no better feeling every morning, you wake up, that's what will give you the energy to keep going and saying, “I’ve got this to-do list but that's okay. I'm going to knock it out and then I'm going to focus on my dream. I'm going to focus on my purpose. I'm going to learn something new that's going to help me with that calling deep inside. Maybe I'm going to learn how to outline a book. Maybe I'm going to learn how to start a business plan. Maybe I'm going to learn how to get in the best shape of my life. Maybe I'm going to learn Spanish. Maybe I'm going to learn how to manage my money better.”
The thing about it is every time you realize that there's a bigger calling for your life that requires growth. That requires time to spend growing and to spend learning quite frankly. It's the best feeling in the world and I know that because I've done it, I've done this whole process and that's why I'm able to teach other people how to do it. I wake up every morning excited about my life. Even though the list is long. I feel like everybody thinks they have the longest list in the world? Sometimes I feel like I do, but it doesn't matter because everything on that list excites me. It makes me feel energized. It makes me hopeful. It reminds me that I'm going to make an impact on the world and that's what I want to do.
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